Day two of thirty, and we’re gonna get right into it.
Raise your hand if the first thing you do when you stand in front of the mirror each morning is turn sideways and analyze. Raise your hand if you pinch the extra skin on the back of your arms or right above the waistline of your jeans, only to find that, yep, it’s still there. Raise your hand if you’ve ever reached for your thighs and sighed after passing a tall, thin girl on the sidewalk. If your hand is raised, you’re definitely not alone. My hand is raised too, and it shows no sign of going down anytime soon.
The truth is, we aren’t always happy with our bodies, and being in love with the way we look all the time, and sometimes at anytime for that matter, is extremely difficult. Being body positive 24/7 is very, very hard. It has me asking some challenging questions.
If feeling ‘eh’ about the way we look motivates us to sneak another workout in during a busy week or to skip sweet treats being passed around the office, that’s okay right? I know that I’m not the only one guilty of doing this. We feel bad about our bodies, so we change our actions based on those feelings.
Is that such a terrible thing??
In the wake of all of these body positive campaigns I feel inclined to say yes. Yes, it is a bad thing to be so critical of the way that we look. It’s bad to let yourself think such negative thoughts. But at the same time, isn’t it okay to want to be fit, and strong, and oh God, I’m going to say it…thin?
In all honesty, I really don’t know if I’ll ever be a body positive person. It feels hardwired in my brain to react a certain way about how I personally look and feel (regardless of how I actually look), and I’m unsure if I have any control over that. I don’t want to feel positively about my body when my jeans feel snug. I want to use those feelings as motivation to make them not so snug. Am I wrong for feeling that way?
In the end, I’ve come to this conclusion: We can love ourselves and love the way that we treat others without loving our thighs, so long as we do not let the size of those thighs determine our own self worth.
Excited to chat again tomorrow.
Feb 17th, 2016
Fun fact for today: Misterwives’ new album titled, Machine dropped today. Give it a listen!