Fearlessness is not the absence of fear. Rather, it’s the mastery of fear.
Let’s talk about fearlessness in social settings. If I were afraid of making friends, I probably wouldn’t have very many. And similar to the quote above, it’s not that you shouldn’t be afraid of meeting new people, I agree it can be scary sometimes! But, you should ‘master’ that fear. Less kindly put, you should get the heck over it!
I’m not afraid to introduce myself to the editor of a huge magazine.
I’m not afraid to slide into the DMs of someone who’s work I think looks cool on Instagram.
I’m not afraid to ask a girl to coffee who I just met 10 minutes prior.
In fact, I’ve done all three of those things recently, because I am literally fearless when it comes to meeting new people. Seriously though, what is the worst that could happen? You slide into the DMs of someone you want to collaborate with, and what? They don’t answer? Big deal! You had nothing to lost in the first place. You ask a stranger to get a cup of coffee, and to your surprise, they oblige and you leave with a new friend. They say no, and you still get to enjoy a cup of coffee! No loss on your part!
Basically what I’d like to get at is that there is no reason to be afraid of introducing yourself or putting yourself out there, because you literally have nothing to lose. The benefits of being fearless and meeting new people is so great that it’s worth it, it’s so worth it!
I challenge you this week to do three things:
- Message someone whom you’ve never met on Instagram. Ask them a question about their work/photos/kids/whatever.
- Introduce yourself to a stranger at an event, happy hour, work out class.
- Invite a coworker or connection you don’t know well to join you for coffee, lunch, yoga after work, a week night event, etc.
If by the end of the week you’ve made three new friends, please don’t come whining to me about your unmanageable social life. I’m kidding.
You have nothing to lose, only amazing connections and friendships to gain. Put yourself out there, meet and mingle with as many people as you can, and be fearless.
Like always, you and me we got this!
March 9, 2017